When you are stuck
When you get stuck, stuck in your plans, thoughts, desires; when you struggle to find answers to questions like:
- What you wish for?
- What do you want to do?
- Where do you want to go in life?
then hesitation due to too many options can be a common one occurring explanation. Because we humans find it increasingly difficult to make decisions as the number of options increases, there are simply too many for our brain. Between 5 and 9 options are ideal, after that it becomes increasingly difficult to make a choice.
Holding on prevents you from moving forward
However, that’s just one reason why people don’t have answers ready or put too much pressure on themselves to find one. Very often it has to do with the fact that we don’t want or can’t let go of something. And that can be conscious or unconscious.
For example, with a very lucrative job offer in another city far away. Because that would mean starting over, leaving behind all your friends, family and loved ones, even the neighbours.
Or you’re pondering whether you should change your job. Actually, you like your current colleagues and also your tasks in the job itself. However, there are no guarantees. You have no way of knowing if the new boss will actually be more affable and fair or if you will like the new colleagues.
“When we get stuck
we have to shake something off
and then let it go …”
Help from a Coach in stuck situations
There are also situations where it is not so clearly recognizable what is holding us back and why we are not moving forward. In such cases, it is important to seek help from Coach Anja, a neutral and competent coach, to understand what is causing it, what is missing, and what is hurting.
Often, we ourselves cannot recognize it, no matter how hard we try or how much pressure we put on ourselves. This is where I can help you. Together, we will explore various perspectives, and you will learn to understand them. However, this does not automatically mean that you will move forward more quickly, but you will move. Because then, you will be able to make an informed decision and move forward step by step. I will support you and accompany you in implementing these decisions.
Informed decisions with heart and mind for progress
Ultimately, this decision against a great option also brings us further, because we have made our decision and, above all, we have resolved ourselves. We can now go further into the future and are then also more open to possibilities that we didn’t even realize before because we were so busy brooding and stuck in our tunnel vision.
There is no one way how best to deal with a situation, this is all very individual. Because people have different values, different things are important to them. If you do not yet know this for yourself, this is also a topic that we can devote ourselves to in coaching, because it is the basis for so many decisions.
Individual values and decisions
In the example mentioned of the potential job change, which is a fairly common coaching concern, there were very different decisions. The lucrative job offer was not accepted by some clients because they recognized how important their familiar surroundings and the people, they love, are to them and they want to be physically close to these people every day. Whereas other clients have taken the big step and accepted the job offer – but only for a limited time – and even though they recognized how important the people around them are to them.
Many possibilities, authentic decisions
But there can also be completely different options, you educate yourself further and qualify for a higher position or you switch to another local company, reduce your working hours and build something of your own at the same time …
There are many possibilities, all are correct, because they are or will be your decisions, because it is your life that wants to be lived. And this as freely, relaxed and confidently sailing as possible.
“We just need a little support,
a light touch, a breeze to take off.
From the past to something new,
something that can grow anew.”
To think about
„Everyone wants to change the world, but nobody wants to change themselves“
Leo Tolstoi
„In order to see clearly, it is often enough to change the direction of view.“
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
„Focus all your energies not on fighting the old, but on creating the new.“
Sokrates
„The main reason most people don’t get what they want is because they don’t even know what they want.“
T. Harv Eker
“You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep repeating the last chapter.”
Michael McMillan
„We cannot change the wind, but we can set the sails differently.“
Aristoteles
“When we get stuck, we have to shake something off and then let go. Sometimes it’s easier and sometimes it’s very difficult, thoughts, memories, people… so that we can move from where we are now, move forward and evolve.
Here we just need a little support, a light touch, a breeze to take off. From the past to something new, something that can grow anew. Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting, but maybe a reinterpretation into a grateful memory for what was good, even in the deepest pain.”
Anja Niehof
